Book Review: Ejaculate Responsibly

Ejaculate Responsibly, by

Gabrielle Blair,

Published 2022

Ejaculate Responsibly was the original inspiration for my humorously titled book collection now being assembled in my bookcase. I picked it up from the Harry Hartog book shop in late 2023 to have a giggle with family and friends. Out of curiosity, I had a peek inside. There I discovered Gabrielle Blair has written a compelling argument:

The cause of all unplanned pregnancies rests on the shoulders of men.

Initially I disagreed. My logic? Consent works both ways. Alas, consent is inconsequential considering sex differences.

Men's and women's biological fertility launches blares argument forward. Once puberty hits, healthy men producesperm daily, meaning every orgasm has potential to impregnate. Women, in contrast, are only fertile for one to two days of their approximately monthly menstrual cycle. A woman's egg is not mechanically wired to release at a set time, women cannot control its release, nor how long it stays poised in their supple uterus. Men have complete control over when and where they ejaculate. In sexual intercourse,

women don't need to orgasm - nor even enjoy sex - to fall pregnant.

Do you see where Blair’s argument has taken us? Without even touching contraceptives - the pill, IUDs, condoms - fertile men are already in control of the conception of every child. Read that sentence again. Not one. Not some. Every child.

Blair goes deeper by discussing sex bias in research, advancements in male contraceptives, limitations and side effects of female contraceptives, abortion (their laws and safety), and how the responsibility of unplanned pregnancy and abortion inevitably falls on women. Let’s expand on that last one. Women carry the foetus inside them, so the choice for or against any one abortion lies solely on them. Men can always run away from the unborn baby, but pregnant women cannot.

The careless ejaculation of men causes unplanned pregnancies, yet women receive the blame for abortions.

I was amazed at the candour in Blair's writing. Flawless logic makes this book difficult to criticise. One reticent critique is that references are only described in text, not listed at the climax of the book, so verifying legitimacy of some claims is time consuming, though not all. In addition, there are contradictions on the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation's website regarding the safety of emerging male contraceptives. However, this foundation and others continue to grind out this research, which I never would have heard about without the seduction of this book.

So, guys, just remember to…