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Ideas on Advice

Image: Twixy curling up after receiving some bad advice.

I have been a serial advice-giver but I am trying to change my ways. According to life coach Kemi Nekvapil (interviewed on The Imperfects podcast) advice giving makes the assumption that what worked for you will ultimately work for everyone, which, given human diversity, is not always true. She asserts that if the advice doesn’t work for the other it can make them feel like a failure, so she encourages listening instead. Others are the best judge of how to improve their own problems.

Perhaps we need to distinguish between personal and professional or hobby-related feedback. Advice is a tricky topic due to the offence it can cause if there is judgement passed on a person’s character, for sure. However, there are also cases where accepting advice on skills may be critical to improving, such as advice from a sporting coach or teacher at school or uni. If we are in the act of trying something with a teacher who can give constructive criticism - not personal attacks - why not take it on board? It can take courage but is well worth it.

Additionally, one thing we can all agree on is that advice is always better received when we have asked for it, and it is delivered with respect. Even then, we can also benefit from checking within ourselves if we agree.

On a personal note to you, reader, I want to emphasise again that my blogs may show my personal struggles and triumphs with self-improvement, but they are intended to be a source of ideas of what might work for others. Not a one-size-fits-all to-do list. I can never assert that what has worked for me will definitely work for you.

Try or don’t try what you like from these blogs and if it doesn’t work, there is always hope for another way in the future for us both.





Hi there,

Lauren Sims is an artist and author from Brisbane, Australia. She has recently become and author and will be releasing her first book in late 2022.

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